1½ years ago I married this guy:
We do love each other, but some days we don't like each other too much.
Some days we even raise our voices and yell a little bit at each other.
But honestly, we love being married.
Someone asked me recently if the myth was true -
that your relationship dies when you get married.
I get asked that a lot, especially from young people.
They don't understand why I wanted to get married so young.
I think it's because they're afraid the negative marriage myths are true.
I guess it's true in some cases.
Sometimes the relationship dies, mostly after you've gotten married.
But wouldn't it have died even if you hadn't gotten married?
I believe it would have.
Getting married doesn't mean the love will never die.
It doesn't necessarily mean you'll get to spend the rest of your life
with that one person.
It just means you've made a promise to fight for it,
instead of just give up and let the love die.
I will tell you this - our relationship has only improved
after we've gotten married.
One of the secrets to having a great marriage/relationship
is to never take the other person and their love for granted.
Don't assume the other person will love you no matter what -
make sure you give the person a reason to love you,
and let them know that you love them.
Make sure to have fun together, laugh together,
and make up bad jokes together.
Let the other person know that you're proud to be with them.
And then tell other people that in front of them.
Don't forget the random acts of kindness.
Open the door, do the remaining dishes,
buy his/her favorite food, send cute little texts during the day,
walk the dog even though it's not your turn.
A marriage is really no different from a relationship,
except that you've made a promise to choose love over hate,
over bad hair days, over stupid fights,
over eating the last piece of chocolate.
Marriage is actively choosing love every single day.
And let me tell you this -
it's totally worth it.
- Lea Binta